Have you ever wondered why we tend to feel uncomfortable when someone says that it's important to "put yourself first"?   Perhaps it’s because society seems to teach women that putting ourselves first would be selfish.   Bred to be the nurturing ones, we’ve...

Did you know that guilt and shame can both be major saboteurs of self-love?   The reason why I wanted to cover guilt and shame today is that you might decide to finally start the process of prioritizing your needs.   And then you take that first step and...

Today I wanted to talk about an important aspect of self-love, and that's self-forgiveness...forgiving ourselves for our past mistakes.   It's like a vital piece of the self-love puzzle that we sometimes overlook.   Forgiving yourself can be incredibly...

When you think of the concept of "I Love Me More", how do you picture it in your head?   I would like to invite you to imagine that you are looking at your reflection in the mirror.   You (the person standing in front of the mirror) are in a relationship...

I felt compelled to piggy back onto last week's Love Note...when I wrote to you about unconscious social conditioning being one of the saboteurs of self-love.   It's one of those topics that really needs a whole book to unravel how this deeply-embedded social...

What if you had a best-friend to sit with you any time of the day to help you work through personal struggles, to help you think through your deep thoughts and ideas, and to talk with you about your dreams and goals?   Wouldn't that be incredibly helpful?  ...

In my last Love Note, I mentioned that there are many saboteurs of self-love.   One of those saboteurs I wanted to cover with you today is unconscious social conditioning.   Did you know that most psychologists agree that we form most of our core beliefs and...

How do you feel about making yourself and your needs your priority?    Perhaps "I love me more" is an entirely new concept for you. What I've come to learn is that most women weren't raised this way. I certainly wasn't.    In fact, it was quite the opposite....

How do you look out for your well-being?    Perhaps you try to eat healthy, exercise, get the proper amount of rest, and do things that lift your spirit and make you happy?   In addition, something that I think is very important for our well-being is setting...

When you screw up, are you more likely to be hard on yourself or do you give yourself empathy and compassion?   Let’s face it, if there’s one thing many of us are good at, it's beating up on ourselves.   In fact, research has uncovered that many (women in...

I hope you now know that loving yourself is not selfish.    But for some reason, when it comes to our children, that logic seems to go out the window.   If we want our children to truly feel self-worth, we need to also be role models by showing them what...

Are you in the habit of taking a pause to check in with yourself throughout the day?   Just imagine, if we were to consciously ask ourselves questions like "How do I feel right now?" or "What do I need in this moment?" Several times a day, we would be fostering...

I was wondering, when is the last time you connected with yourself via: journaling, reflection, meditation, etc.?   It's so important to check in with yourself, daily if possible. If you can squeeze in 15 minutes, that will totally work!   Your relationship...

You know what I was thinking you deserve today?   You deserve some recognition and appreciation!   So here it comes.   1. Name at least one thing you are proud of yourself for accomplishing this week?   2. Look at the palm of your dominant hand....

Do you believe you should give, or receive, unconditional love in a relationship?   If we didn't receive unconditional love from our caretakers growing up, often we can seek that from our partners.   But it's not realistic to expect that a partner should...

I was wondering, when is the last time you patted yourself on the back?   It is so important to pat yourself on the back for your wins both big and small.   I know it may sound like a cheesy thing to do. But trust me, it feels really good.   I do it all...

Have you ever thought about what "I Love Me More" means to you?   A friend of mine once had an 'aha' moment after I explained to her the concept of "I Love Me More".   After a few weeks of contemplating this idea, she realized that she hadn't been valuing...

Are there any stories from your past that you are too ashamed to tell anyone, even those that are closest to you?—Something that if anyone knew, you feel like you would die a little inside?   I want to share with you something that was a big epiphany for me...the...

Did you know that loving ourselves is more than just on an emotional or mental level, it also includes loving our bodies and taking care of them?   In a world that bombards us with unrealistic beauty standards and constantly promotes the idea that we need to look...

I wanted to ask you three very important questions.   If you were to name three people who are your highest priority, who would they be?   Next, name the person who's your very top priority.   Last question....did you list yourself as your top priority,...

Hey there, fabulous! Something's been tugging at my heart, and I couldn't help but scribble down my thoughts and send them your way.    So, let's talk about this notion of having someone else be your other half to complete you.   You're an extraordinary...

Did you ever watch Sex And The City?   If so, you may remember the scene with Samantha Jones where she broke off her engagement to Smith with this famously quoted line...   "I'm gonna say the one thing you aren't supposed to say. I love you... but I love me...

My Dearest Love,   I want to take this moment to express my deepest affection for you, to cherish every aspect of who you are, both inside and out.   From the very core of my being, I want you to know that I adore your entire being, including your beautiful...

Hi Beautiful! What an amazing day today is!  Why?  Because you are alive and present here in this world ♥️.   I hope you believe that my love, and I truly hope that others in your inner circle make you feel that way too.    Our friends, family members and...

My dearest love, you deserve to have so much peace, happiness and unconditional love in your life.   There are times we crave unconditional love from those close to us. But the truth is love is and should be conditional from others.   Other people need to...

After I wrote you yesterday, I was thinking about another thing I’m grateful for about you love.   I am grateful for your intuition, that subtle, yet incredibly powerful super-computer that's programmed into your subconscious.   It’s there to give you...

What a beautiful day today is my love! There is so much to be grateful for love, don’t you agree?   What are you most grateful for today??   I for one, am grateful for you. I’m grateful for your incredible body, the temple that houses your beautiful spirit....

Hey Babelicious! I love you so much and I want you to always feel safe and protected.   And there's really just one person that can truly give you a sense of safety, and that person is me (your inner voice).   I know that I haven't always been there for you...

My Darling!!! You are such a fabulous human being!!   You've come so far from where you were before. Who you are today is not the same person you were yesterday.   You've learned so much, and have grown into a whole new version of you. You 2.0....3.0...and...

Hi Beautiful! Do you know how valuable and worthy you are? Words cannot even begin to express how precious you are.   It has nothing to do with anything outside of yourself, and everything to do with what's inside.   Unfortunately far too many of us fall...

My darling, I want you to be as happy as humanly possible. You deserve that babe! You really do.   The key is, knowing that you are the only one that can bring yourself lasting happiness.   No one can, or should be, responsible for our happiness. Just like...

Babe, I love you so much and just want you to fully thrive in life. You deserve that.   One of things that can prevent us from living our best lives is holding on to negative beliefs about ourselves because of things that happened in the past.    My love,...

Babe, anyone should feel very lucky to have YOU in their life. It truly is an honor and a privilege to have any of your time and attention.   But, I want to know, are there any folks in your life that don't make you feel like they value or respect your presence?...

Babe, I want you have everything your heart desires, and so much more. You deserve that my love, and I want to give that to you.   But in order to do that, I need you to know that your needs also matter, just like your desires do.   Do you know that babes?...

Hey Babelicious! I hope you know how incredibly stunning you are, inside and out.   While the world puts so much emphasis on external appearances; it's truly what's inside that matters most...it's what gives us our magical mystery, magnetism and glow.   So I...

Hey gorgeous!   Do you ever get plagued with feelings of guilt when you think of doing something for yourself?   And does that guilty feeling sometimes eat you up inside to the point where you contemplate not doing that thing you wanted to do  just...

My love! I'm so freakin' proud of you. You've been working hard on yourself and it really shows.   Putting YOU first feels good doesn't it? And doing what makes YOU feel good IS what's best for you, as well as everyone else around you.   The more love you...

Baby doll, you deserve to have a fabulous day! I hope you will make time to do something that brings you happiness and joy.   I was wondering...do you ever let the "should's" in your life get the best of you?   As in... "I should be nice and not share how...

My love, I want for you all the very best that life has to offer.   So I hope you will never even contemplate setting aside your needs, your happiness, your peace, your dreams or your goals...or anything that makes you YOU, for anyone.   What you need...