Hey Babelicious! I hope you know how incredibly stunning you are, inside and out.

 

While the world puts so much emphasis on external appearances; it’s truly what’s inside that matters most…it’s what gives us our magical mystery, magnetism and glow.

 

So I hope you won’t ever dim the beautiful light of your presence for anyone beautiful, whether it’s someone you know or a complete stranger.

 

One of the ways that we unconsciously dim our light is apologizing if we haven’t done anything wrong.

 

Apologizing, or saying “sorry” or “I’m sorry” is so deeply embedded into social behavior, that it’s almost like a reflex.

 

It’s an unconscious social norm which serves to shrink ourselves down for others in an effort to not make anyone around us feel uncomfortable.

 

Why should anyone be uncomfortable in our full presence?

 

Perhaps we learned this behavior in childhood, or perhaps we observed others around us doing it, and then we adopted it for ourselves, without truly understanding what this behavior does to our confidence and self-esteem.

 

So what can we do instead of apologizing?

 

Try saying “excuse me“, “oops” or even nothing at all instead.

 

It’s not easy to break old habits, and in fact my love, it can take a long time to change them. And even then, that old reflex will still come up from time to time.

 

So please please please, don’t ever be hard on yourself. Always be kind and forgiving to yourself. But please never give up on yourself.

 

Simply take notice of when you apologize, and make a mental note of it each time it happens. Then next time, try to remember to say something other than “sorry” and see how that feels.

 

You’ve sooooo got this!

 

Keep shining that amazingly beautiful light of yours babe! 

 

With so much love,
XOXO