Babe, I want you have everything your heart desires, and so much more. You deserve that my love, and I want to give that to you.
But in order to do that, I need you to know that your needs also matter, just like your desires do.
Do you know that babes? Do you believe that your needs matter?
I understand that sometimes it may seem easier for you to just ignore your needs…to not want to rock the boat with others…or maybe it’s just too scary to bring them up.
But my love, that’s just an old pattern of self-sacrificing in order to try to make others more comfortable.
What you need matters. It matters for you as well as the others who you are in a relationship with too.
How else can others get the opportunity to truly understand us, and our needs, if we don’t communicate them?
Heck, how else can we get to know ourselves better if we can’t get in touch with, and communicate, our needs?
We have to get comfortable with communicating our needs clearly.
Yes, it will feel probably a bit scary at first, especially if you’re not used to doing it.
But I promise you love, once you face that fear, and realize how healthy and good it is for both parties, you’ll no longer let that fear stop you.
Remember babe, we aren’t self-sacrificing any more.
If you agree, say this to out loud and make this commitment to yourself: “I am not self-sacrificing any more”.
Yessss!! Cheers to that!
XOXO
