How do you feel about making yourself and your needs your priority?
Perhaps “I love me more” is an entirely new concept for you. What I’ve come to learn is that most women weren’t raised this way. I certainly wasn’t.
In fact, it was quite the opposite. I was raised to self-sacrifice, to not have any personal boundaries, to put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own.
And what that old belief system got me was zero sense of self-value or self-worth, oh, and the added bonus of being treated like a door mat.
But thankfully I was able to change that script.
“I love me more” was a choice that I started making very early on in my life (and continue doing daily).
I love me more than to allow myself my spirit to be broken or my body to be harmed by my parents.
I love me more than to stay in a marriage where I was deeply unhappy and had to deal with constant put downs.
I love me more than to work at any job where I don’t feel appreciated, or get paid what I know I’m worth.
Each time I chose to love myself more, and left these toxic situations and relationships behind, I leveled up my life and success, and increased my level of happiness.
But here’s the deal, it’s definitely not easy for most of us to get to a place where we can choose to prioritize ourselves and our needs. In fact it’s one of the more difficult places to get to in life.
Why? Because there are so many pitfalls and sabotages to self-love, for women especially. I cover many of them in my book. And in the next Love Note, I’ll be focusing on one of the big ones.
Can you guess what it is?