I have to admit, when I first started writing this Love Note to you, I intended to focus on all the warm, wonderful, positive aspects of the holiday season.
But as I started writing, my heart started pulling me in a different direction.
While we may prefer to envision the holidays spent purely in joyous celebration with friends and loved ones; I wanted to acknowledge the fact that we may also have our own struggles during this time of year, for a variety of reasons.
If this is resonating with you, I hope you will take this opportunity to remind yourself that during such challenges, practicing self-compassion and self-acceptance, are especially important to your well-being, and for nurturing your relationship with yourself.
Below are a handful of scenarios where these two practices are particularly relevant:
- High Expectations and Stress: It’s important to remind ourselves that it’s okay to not meet every expectation and to prioritize our own well-being.
- Balancing Work and Home Responsibilities: Practicing self-compassion means acknowledging that it’s impossible to do everything and give ourselves permission to delegate tasks or simplify plans if needed.
- Financial Stress: Self-compassion in this context involves recognizing our financial limits and understanding that the value of the season isn’t measured by how much money we spend.
- Family Dynamics: Practicing self-acceptance helps in acknowledging our worth and decisions, regardless of others’ opinions.
- Loneliness or Grief: Self-compassion means allowing ourselves to feel these emotions without judgment and seeking support when needed.
- Physical and Mental Health Issues: It’s important to listen to our own body and mind, and not push beyond our limits. Self-acceptance includes honoring our health needs, even if it means breaking from holiday traditions.
- Cultural or Religious Differences: Practicing self-compassion involves embracing our identity and finding meaningful ways to celebrate that respect our own traditions and beliefs.
In each of these situations, the practice of self-compassion and self-acceptance involves acknowledging that difficulties happen, treating ourselves with kindness, and recognizing that it’s okay not to be perfect.
It’s about giving ourselves the same empathy and understanding that we would offer to a good friend in similar circumstances.
You deserve that, you deserve your love.
I’m here for you, cheering you, on and wishing you a truly wonderful holiday season!